Relationships – Happiness

Good afternoon, dearest

I chose for today Relationships.

 

What can bring happiness?

Happiness is a state of mind,

State of spirit where no health affecting condition is noticed.

Happiness is smilling,

Happiness…it is to be with your better half,

Your companion for life.

 

Happiness can and should be built , nourished everyday.

 

Like a flower, it ought to have dedication and much love.

A flower can not blossomand bloom into something wonderful without love and appreciation.

 

Likewise, one can find his/her own potencial by looking into the «self» (our core, our soul) by himself or herself. It is possible.

But them again, the other part is missing.

Now I have met and known both

 

 

Since :

A) I stopped complaining about some flaws in me and started to acctually do something about it.

B) I started pursuing for my personal and professional goals and not allowed them to just be a «list of something I am going to do someday».

C) I embraced my body and began nourishing it as it was (and it is) my own temple, my own.

 

(under construction)

 

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Social – Friendships and Bullying POV

Good evening , dearest.

Today I had a massive headache and cold in the morning,
so I am convinced that I have to slow down, overall.

Giving a time to rest.
I think they were leftovers from the yesterday :
I was already not feeling good at work (headaches) and I was stressed up.
Those combined led to a breakdown, I suppose.  [28/5]

POV : 
As some might know, Life Blog started as my own journal and therapy.
Afterwards I believe (still do)
that I have much to say, teach and speak out
to the public or anyone willing to read me.

[29/05]
[…] Since I have started studying
I have been through highs and lows, as it is usual.
However, I have been facing some gossiping and comments from colleagues.
A situation from fifteen days ago and it was not that much of a big deal…
But it was not forgotten along with other events…

Answer to SELF : 
Yes, those gossips affected me.
The next question is : Until when ??

POV : 
I have been fragile lately but I manage to make it through the day ,
Work combined to the course along with the lack of time for resting , etc
I believe I am proud of my acchievements, because my «older self»
would just give up and give in (waving a white flag)

Instead of NOW always keeping up and pushing forward, «new self».
I admit that today I was almost to the point of wanting to cry.
But I had to keep moving and I went to my appointment.

On therapy I was reminded of the progress that I made
Since I have started until now. The psychologist is proud
and I smiled.

But she told me one thing in particular that really made me wonder …
« I know you went through a lot, , I really know.
But they do not know that. »

« You have two options :
Back away and ignore or confront and face the consequences. »

[…] «This is not bullying from high school coming back»
These words… it was like she was really reading my mind.
« It is not coming back ».
« Bullying is not coming back ».

It reassured me, it conforted me during this time of need
And I feel that to get along and to create empathy
with the psychologist/doctor/counselor is key.

About friendships…we do not need a lot of friends
Just people that are there during the good and bad times

Answer : It is not coming back and I am not going to give in.
I have personal and professional goals and nothing is going
To keep me away from them.

Many blessings !

Job – Working and Studying

Good morning , readers !

How are you today?

I hope you are okay and I wish you all a wonderful weekend.
A little special something for you:
I decided to share the experience of working and studying at the same time
And some situations that happened to me, too.

Let’s start off with the Point of View, shall we?

POV : 
I have started working in a firm almost two weeks ago, by now.
The first days were quite a challenge, to adapt myself to the rythm ;
Besides this, I was not able to rest at home as I used to, atfter the course.

Working after the course was uniquely my decision
Connected with the wish to be more independent.
And I attained it.

” I sincerely believe that if we wish and fight hard on something,
It will most likely turn to your favor
It can either end well or turn into a valuable lesson to remember”.

The downside was that I started to feel more tired day by day
Until I really got used to it. Sometimes a smile and a cup of coffee do wonders!
(I am going to search for something to replace the cafeine, really! xd)

[…] Anyways, I know it is not the best on the «jobworld» and out there
But I am proud to say that I do love my job, with its ups and downs,
Pros and cons. It is humble, requires effort and it is a challenge, every day.

I always say to myself that I am doing my best,
And to smile regardless of feeling so, so tired.
I usually notice that when I do so, it all tend to get better
For those five hours. I was able to make friends at work, too.

Situation One :
I do opinion surveys on the telephone.
There was this lady who told me a loved one was in hospital
Also, that she was depressed. She answered the survey and by the time
And afterwards, I told her (in my language) :

« I believe, at heart, that everything will be alright
I had depression in 2007, diagnosed two years later
And now I am being treated and feeling better
Know that there is Hope and a Cure.
I know and believe that you will be alright
And that we are not able to appreciate happiness without knowing sadness
It makes part , and we can learn to live with both ».

(…) She agreed. I gave her some confort
and told her it was going to be alright and to have faith.
She thanked me. Then I had to go and end the phone call.
But I felt that she was feeling better, calm.
It was very rewarding, for me to notice so.

Situation Two :
I am aware that this maybe is not the most correct thing to be done
But it has a reason, and one reason alone, with no more intentions :
To thank people for answering the survey and let them know that they were kind.
I usually do not expect or spend time expecting for the answer.
I do my part of letting people know that they made the difference on answering the survey
By email. I only send one email and that is it.

So , unexpectfully, 
I got an answer from someone who answered to the survey two days ago.


“It was nice to be inquired by you.
I wish you the best success in your professional life and of student, 
always with the kind and professional attitude that I am sure that you have. 
Everytime you need say so.

Best regards.”

Then I think :
I mean, how can I not love my job???
Yes, I am aware that people are not always loving and kind,
There are rude answers too, but I learned to cope and laugh it off.
It is not like it is personal!

And these few situations make me appreciate the job that I have
And how lucky I am for actually having a job.
I feel it fulfills me and my dream of helping people.
Remember : One step at a time to make the difference.

Blessings!

World – Women Rights

Good morning , my readers

After a while gone, I am back…

Before speaking and writing about other topics,
I decided to show you a rather interesting game/app on Facebook
That I saw (only a bit) yesterday afternoon.

The name of the game is Half The Sky Movement – The Game

It has a different approach on Women’s Rights.
Action is taken in India, where your character is a woman
and you have to make decisions on a daily basis.
Your decisions have influence through out the game itself.

The goal is to bring awareness not only about what I mentioned first,
but also about Education, Health and Human Rights.

I hope you like it, as much as I did.

Lastly, the link to the game Half The Sky Movement – The Game

Kind regards…

World – Mental Illness POV

Good afternoon!

For this day, I thought about a diferent point of view
And approach on Mental Illness.

It is not easy to have mental illness, nor it is something we choose to have.
Mental Illness, such as chronic illness as well,
Tend to be labeled by people and society
And, still until this very day it is frequent to judge, and talk/write
Unacurate information and statements about these.

It is easy and rather quick to judge when you are not going through the situation.
Everyone’s path and life journey is different.
Each human being is diferent.
And that is what trully is wonderful in life, too!

How boring it would be if we thought the same way,
Dressed the same way and all?

We cannot fully know how someone’s path is until we walk through their shoes
As in, going through one’s similar condition or situation.

We feel diferently, 

We act diferently,

We demonstrate affection, love, kindness, in our own special way.

We suffer diferently and we react diferently through pain.

It is not easy to have mental illness, nor it is something we choose to have.
Sometimes, it just happens or it is triggered by events or people around us.
Often it is not “socially acceptable” to be sick.
As it is not “socially acceptable” anything that is either different or unknown.

People either despise, ignore or fear the unknown.
So I leave another question :
What if that unknown become known and even, familiar?
Would it have an impact or would you act the same way?

I had the first symptoms of my condition in 2007
But I was only diagnosed with depression three years later.
I researched, read because I wanted to know what was happening to me.

To seek knowledge is optional.
To seek help, is needed
Because your Health, your life is precious
And so are the ones around you.

Note: There were triggering events, yes, that I wrote about in the blog
Since 2010.

Nowadays I am not ashamed to say that I had depression
And/or that I have anxiety problems.
No one has to feel shame.
No diagnosis defines people.

People cannot allow a condition or illness to put a limit to their dreams.
Instead, that must be a reason to push forward
And redefine his/her own goals.

I am not depression.
It was a condition, that, as many others can and must be controlled.
It has not have a physical spot where it hurts,
But it is real pain…ache that has a reason.
That reason can be figured out imediately or it can take time.

Again, it takes time, yet I learned that
Instead of feeling sorry for what I went through
Instead of whining about what I do not have
Instead of feeling pity of my old self

I decided to spend that energy
On the Present. Because Present is a gift.
And thanking for what I have.
And dedicating to my former self.


— Carpe Diem,

Seize the day. 

It is valuable to find proper help and support.
Professional help is advised.
And follow your doctor’s instructions.

Our life is a blessing,
We are lucky to wake up each day.

Some, are not as lucky
And if we are alive,
Let’s live with quality and truly live
Not survive!

God bless you all!

Tips to Deal with Anxiety

Good evening dearest…

I usually write during the night or during the afternoon.
Then I either post at the moment or allow Blogger to do its magic.
There is this subject…that I felt unconfortable in the past to talk about.

It is night over here and I chose to write out what I was thinking about
It is a quite personal post.

Anxiety.
Again… Anxiety.

Okay, better this way, with smaller font.
I considered anxiety to be something that held me back for some years.
As a matter of fact, it gave me quite some headaches.

I must admit, I still haven’t fully tamed this
But I am starting to find ways to cope and deal with it.

NOTE : Anxiety does not have to be a monster!
In a normal situation, it is acceptable or «normal» to feel nervous and worried

(To feel alarmed/nervous/insecure is a mechanism of the human being
To be aware of risks, to be grounded and focused to his/her surroundings)

BUT when it affects and disturbs your life, whether socially or psychologically
It is time to react and seek help!

POV :
When I am anxious I tend to think too much and barely function.
With these wrongs… :

«What if…?» , «I should have done/said (usually added with «more») » , 
«I could have done» , «What will happen?»
«It was my fault» , «I was not good enough» , 
«I am not ready for this…» , «I cannot do» …and so on…

Over and over again…

Are few examples I can give out to you.
I found and sorted out some ways to deal with it
And other ways/tips to ease my mind.

When I get TOO anxious, my stomach aches
and I honestly feel like I want to cry.
Other times, eating and sleeping gets affected.
We don’t have to live like this!

So I rushed to seek help and advice…
Oh and found out some ways to deal with this on my own.

What I do…not in any particular order

1. Think about good moments.
Anyone who you deeply love or inspires you greatly.
Someone you held dearly to your heart.

2. Have a lucky charm.
I once went to a store and a black stone caught my attention.
Onix. So I bought it and ever since, I carry it along with me.
In my pocket and near me when I am going to sleep.

3. Light up a candle once in a while.
Stare at the flame, keep an eye on it.
Just sitting and connecting with your «self»
Or even, thanking for the day.

4. I have…conquered . I have…achieved .
I confess I am still slowly adapting to this way of thought
Due to the fact that I had these negative thoughts
And reversed thinking pattern for so many years
That it is hard (NOT IMPOSSIBLE) to change.
It will take time, but I believe! I am trying this !

So the tip on point number 4 is to,
At the end of the day to say or think to yourself :

TODAY , I have conquered… (fill in) . 

TODAY , I have achieved… (fill in).

It does not matter if it was a silly or small achievement.
What matters is that your mind gain focus on that type of thoughts
So that it may feel at peace whether it is at night, before going to bed
Or whenever you need so.

An example : 

TODAY , 
I have conquered my goal of making through the day and learning properly.

TODAY , 
I have achieved what I had planned : to write for this blog.

5. RESCUE Thought.
When I am really, really anxious and I have the chance
I usually go to my bed and just stay there.
And try to breathe. Slowly…

Then , (can be a solution in other cases and combined to 5) 
I think to myself over and over and over again
As many times as needed , this :

« IT IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT »
« IT IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT »
« IT IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT »
« IT IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT »
« IT IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT »

NOTE : 
Thoughts are very powerful and can have a strong influence in us.
We have to reverse them, in case they are harmful.

6. Balance and Organize.
I know that something either unknown
Or unexpected is more likely to cause anxiety.
Now and then you can learn to organize your thoughts
Or your projects. That will help you deal with insecurities.

You can organize at a) mind or b) by writing out.
It can be used once in a while as a guideline or resource.

If you know what you have to do or what you will say
(for presentations) you will feel slightly less nervous
By practicing too (you can try in front of a mirror, for instance)
Presentations will become something simple.
Achievement? Your confidence will boost!

7. Write out or Talk out
I used to write my heart out or talk out with someone when I felt anxious.
It helped too… However, now
I am trying by myself to find ways (mentioned above) to cope.

8. Letting it all out
Lastly, if I do feel like I want to cry, I do cry.
If I get nervous to that point, I will…
It is better to become aware of this
Than to let those emotions burst and get out of control.

9. Reading
Reading can prove to be relaxing.
Choose your favorites
Or maybe you can choose to read a diferent type of book
One that you usually don’t read.
Or you can pick Self Improvement or Guidance books.

This was my POV and Tips for the moment.
I shall add new tips from time to time
Feel free to add any suggestions or even contact us, if you would like.

Wishing you all best.

School – Presentations

Good morning , my readers

For today I decided to share with you a little something,
I had an assignment about any topic we would like out of magazines.
Our trainer gave us magazines and told us to pick an article and subject
to make a powerpoint presentation about.

A article about Activism and Greenpeace caught my eye
I decided to go further and do the assignment about Animal Cruelty
(Still wondering if I should share the presentation or not!)
Plus we all had to speak during the whole presentation in English
(Not my main language but can I surely consider it my second language)

So…
1. I gathered the material and wrote text (of my own), 
2. Searched for relevant information and then divided it.
3. Tried to create the presentation to cause impact and raise awareness.
4. Added some effects and finished it.

I confess that I was a little nervous since it was a heavy yet sensitive topic.
Yet, I chose to go ahead and do my presentation first.
I had to do it and waiting more and more would make me feel anxious, later on.

I wasn’t sure how the rest of the class would react.
It was shocking for them, yet I know that the goal was reached :
To raise awareness.

«We may seem like little drops of the ocean
But each one of us CAN make the difference»

«We CAN choose what we want to buy, eat and use
And we have the right to KNOW the truth»

I am sharing this for you to know that :

  • We CAN always face our fears and insecurities;
  • We CAN make part of causes, any cause we wish as long as we are willing to do so;
  • It can all go alright and people’s reactions CAN surprise you.

I was also really happy to have done this assignment.
It was VERY interesting and learned much from doing it!
Plus, it was a great occasion to establish a little debate
About Animal Cruelty/Animal Testing.

My questions were:

1. Do you pay attention while you are buying make up, food or care products 
if they are cruelty free ot not? 

2. Have you ever took action to help animals? If so, how?

I decided to leave them here for you to answer as well.
Take care!