Relationships – Happiness

Good afternoon, dearest

I chose for today Relationships.

 

What can bring happiness?

Happiness is a state of mind,

State of spirit where no health affecting condition is noticed.

Happiness is smilling,

Happiness…it is to be with your better half,

Your companion for life.

 

Happiness can and should be built , nourished everyday.

 

Like a flower, it ought to have dedication and much love.

A flower can not blossomand bloom into something wonderful without love and appreciation.

 

Likewise, one can find his/her own potencial by looking into the «self» (our core, our soul) by himself or herself. It is possible.

But them again, the other part is missing.

Now I have met and known both

 

 

Since :

A) I stopped complaining about some flaws in me and started to acctually do something about it.

B) I started pursuing for my personal and professional goals and not allowed them to just be a «list of something I am going to do someday».

C) I embraced my body and began nourishing it as it was (and it is) my own temple, my own.

 

(under construction)

 

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Relationships – Years.

Good afternoon…

I was able to rest for at least a couple of hours.
Double post, which is not the regular basis but I wish to make it up to you 
In case there is a time I leave the blog less active.

Today is an important day…
For us, me and (I also believe) you.

It has been two years since our first kiss, since we started dating
I remember it as it was yesterday.
That beautiful place with the perfect company.

It has been two years, with times of joy, hurt, laughter and much love.
Two years of many to come, if your heart desires the same as me.
Two years loving and living with and for someone else
Wanting nothing else that his happiness.

POV : 
I was and am not the kind of person
to wish anything else different than a love for life.
Short term relationships are not meant for me.
I wished someone for life, to hold closely, look after and love much.
And also to feel the same back, for me.

At that time, I was not expecting to meet you.
We began as friends. I was not looking for love.
Time passed and we were trusting more and more in eachother.
Going out for a walk or coffee, laughting much, speaking a lot on the phone
(We could speak for hours about random things , everything and nothing
And even talk about serious subjects)

I fell in love with that handsome young man.
He loved me back, but I was scared if he didn’t love me back…
We had already a solid friendship and I didn’t want to lose it,
In case he didn’t felt the same.

One day, the 29th, we asked eachother, something like this on msn :
« Do you like LIKE someone? »
(I hesitated but said) « Yes… »

Then I said « You. »
I logged off but left other of my accounts open.
Then he told me that he had something to tell me.
That he loved me back.

I was really shy at the time but I felt the happiest and luckiest person in the World!
I still do, after all these days, months and years shared.
I do not know what will the future bring for us.
Only GOD know and time will tell.

I shall be waiting and want you to know that you made me… 
A better person than I used to be
A stronger human being, for always believing in me
A beautiful man who saw me and loved me for being just…ME.

Hopefully I can bring and give you as much or more 
Than you gave to me.
WordsKeeper, this is for you.
Thank you… I love you  !

World – Universal Peace


Greetings, my readers and friends

A little different from usual, but for this day
I decided to shout out to causes, 
One in particular…

Universal Peace !


There is a movement called Universal Peace Flag.

It is meant for PEACE, BALANCE, EQUILITY, JOY
and for communities, cities and countries to become aware
of what we have in common  :


The WISH to be whole

For LOVE, KINDNESS and HELP to be part

ONENESS. 


We can achieve great goals and aim for our dreams
We must keep in mind that we are part of something huge
And , more than anyone, we can make a diference.

We can stand for a cause and help.

We can volunteer, share, donate, anything to help out.

Will you make part?


NOTE : 
I am currently representing my country 
As an Ambassador for Peace.
I am honored to make part of this movement and team!


Visit us at 


To learn and know more about this cause.

It is possible to contribute, shop or become an Ambassador for your Country.


You can also follow us on…



Blessings !

Relationships – Passion and Love

Good afternoon, dearest.

For today I decided to share one of other new lessons :
Passion… and Love.

There is a difference between both.
The flame of passion, that burning fire can diminish after a while.
It is to impress, to make each day something new.

If there is less passion at a certain time.
It does not mean the other part does not love you.

I am personally a believer of true love.
I also believe that I have met love, himself.

It is part to be less passion over time,
Less new things.
But the couple CAN renew that burning flame…

By going out elsewhere, going to movies,
Trying out new things, spending more time together,
taking him/her to that place he/she loves
or that he/she would seriously like to go to!

Allow him/her to know how much you love your other half.
Let them know … How much they are special,
How much they mean the world to you!

But Love…
Love is something else.
It is so much more than just passion !

Love resists the test of time.
Love forgives.
Love gives and offers.

Love does not demand nor wishes anything in return, constantly.
Love is to smile when one is smilling,
And feeling the aches when your special someone is hurting.

Love is to miss that special someone every day,
And every day to love that person more.

So treasure your loved ones,
Treasure your other half,
That person who makes you feel complete.

Blessings.

Happy Mother’s Day

Good evening,

It is a bit late here where I live,

But, better late than never, right?

I wouldn’t finish the day without posting this…

To every mother 
In each corner of the World
Young mothers until the one’s 
Who raised wise men and brave women

Know that you are loved and always will be.
And admired by your strength, unconditional love and kindness, you are
You are a wife, a mother, a grandmother, someone’s special daughter

Even if gone too soon
You will always be treasured and reminded for 
Your beauty inside and out!
For you matter the most.

And…a Mother is a special being
To be one is to have Bond of Love
And Protection for Eternity.


HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!!! 
God bless you all.

Tips to Deal with Anxiety

Good evening dearest…

I usually write during the night or during the afternoon.
Then I either post at the moment or allow Blogger to do its magic.
There is this subject…that I felt unconfortable in the past to talk about.

It is night over here and I chose to write out what I was thinking about
It is a quite personal post.

Anxiety.
Again… Anxiety.

Okay, better this way, with smaller font.
I considered anxiety to be something that held me back for some years.
As a matter of fact, it gave me quite some headaches.

I must admit, I still haven’t fully tamed this
But I am starting to find ways to cope and deal with it.

NOTE : Anxiety does not have to be a monster!
In a normal situation, it is acceptable or «normal» to feel nervous and worried

(To feel alarmed/nervous/insecure is a mechanism of the human being
To be aware of risks, to be grounded and focused to his/her surroundings)

BUT when it affects and disturbs your life, whether socially or psychologically
It is time to react and seek help!

POV :
When I am anxious I tend to think too much and barely function.
With these wrongs… :

«What if…?» , «I should have done/said (usually added with «more») » , 
«I could have done» , «What will happen?»
«It was my fault» , «I was not good enough» , 
«I am not ready for this…» , «I cannot do» …and so on…

Over and over again…

Are few examples I can give out to you.
I found and sorted out some ways to deal with it
And other ways/tips to ease my mind.

When I get TOO anxious, my stomach aches
and I honestly feel like I want to cry.
Other times, eating and sleeping gets affected.
We don’t have to live like this!

So I rushed to seek help and advice…
Oh and found out some ways to deal with this on my own.

What I do…not in any particular order

1. Think about good moments.
Anyone who you deeply love or inspires you greatly.
Someone you held dearly to your heart.

2. Have a lucky charm.
I once went to a store and a black stone caught my attention.
Onix. So I bought it and ever since, I carry it along with me.
In my pocket and near me when I am going to sleep.

3. Light up a candle once in a while.
Stare at the flame, keep an eye on it.
Just sitting and connecting with your «self»
Or even, thanking for the day.

4. I have…conquered . I have…achieved .
I confess I am still slowly adapting to this way of thought
Due to the fact that I had these negative thoughts
And reversed thinking pattern for so many years
That it is hard (NOT IMPOSSIBLE) to change.
It will take time, but I believe! I am trying this !

So the tip on point number 4 is to,
At the end of the day to say or think to yourself :

TODAY , I have conquered… (fill in) . 

TODAY , I have achieved… (fill in).

It does not matter if it was a silly or small achievement.
What matters is that your mind gain focus on that type of thoughts
So that it may feel at peace whether it is at night, before going to bed
Or whenever you need so.

An example : 

TODAY , 
I have conquered my goal of making through the day and learning properly.

TODAY , 
I have achieved what I had planned : to write for this blog.

5. RESCUE Thought.
When I am really, really anxious and I have the chance
I usually go to my bed and just stay there.
And try to breathe. Slowly…

Then , (can be a solution in other cases and combined to 5) 
I think to myself over and over and over again
As many times as needed , this :

« IT IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT »
« IT IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT »
« IT IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT »
« IT IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT »
« IT IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT »

NOTE : 
Thoughts are very powerful and can have a strong influence in us.
We have to reverse them, in case they are harmful.

6. Balance and Organize.
I know that something either unknown
Or unexpected is more likely to cause anxiety.
Now and then you can learn to organize your thoughts
Or your projects. That will help you deal with insecurities.

You can organize at a) mind or b) by writing out.
It can be used once in a while as a guideline or resource.

If you know what you have to do or what you will say
(for presentations) you will feel slightly less nervous
By practicing too (you can try in front of a mirror, for instance)
Presentations will become something simple.
Achievement? Your confidence will boost!

7. Write out or Talk out
I used to write my heart out or talk out with someone when I felt anxious.
It helped too… However, now
I am trying by myself to find ways (mentioned above) to cope.

8. Letting it all out
Lastly, if I do feel like I want to cry, I do cry.
If I get nervous to that point, I will…
It is better to become aware of this
Than to let those emotions burst and get out of control.

9. Reading
Reading can prove to be relaxing.
Choose your favorites
Or maybe you can choose to read a diferent type of book
One that you usually don’t read.
Or you can pick Self Improvement or Guidance books.

This was my POV and Tips for the moment.
I shall add new tips from time to time
Feel free to add any suggestions or even contact us, if you would like.

Wishing you all best.

Relationships – Expectations

Good evening everyone ,

I usually since I started to post on Tuesdays and Fridays,
I wasn’t making posts in other days.
BUT today is a holiday here and I decided to make an exception.
For today (and somewhat related to the post “Treasure” on Life´s Advice)
I chose Expectations. There is more than meets the eye.
I am going to share a story with you, about my current therapy.

I go once per week at a local college of Psychology where we talk
And sometimes we have some exercises and there I gained more tools to deal with life.
I am always learning and open for changes. (Will tell more in other posts)

Therefore, the first step was to recognize a problem or a possible situation happening.
In my case, carrying high expectations had proven to be devastating.
So I told her. (The situation will be told below, I promise)

And it is, specially when one has such high expectations,
That anything the other people do isn’t enough.
It never seems enough.

So I thought about the issue itself and there may a reason for it.
Lack of self esteem or affection.
Personally, if we have low self esteem
People can help us, can try to heal those wounds
But we have to find love inside of us too.
And that can prove to be quite a chalenge.

SITUATION :
I arrived to college and I had high expectations
« I am going to feel fine after this, it is all that I want and I hope it doesn’t take much time »
My thoughts exactly. Then, more and more expectations were added.

I wanted so badly to feel refreshed and changed
For my loved one, for my family, for my friends
That I unconsciously overwhelmed everything with expectations.
Plus, neglected myself. I thought about nothing else.
And I was growing inpatient!

Outcome : 
Instead of draining my energy on thoughts as, for example :
«It has to be good» , «I have to feel okay» , «TODAY I have to tell x , y and z»

(They become warmful because in those cases
You are organizing things so much OR forcing something to happen
Even if it is only in your mind.
Even if it is with a good intention,
Things don’t always work out the way we want)

When I stopped carrying such expectations…I NOTICED!

And if at least you throw some of them away
You will feel the diference, I guarantee.

(Because those can and seriously warm your relationships 
And you can lead yourself to disapointment
Instead it is better to be surprised through out life!)

…I just thought of nothing and went there
As in « Appointment today , we’ll see how this goes »

My goal and the goal of the psychologist is for me to improve as a person.
However, there are ups and downs.
When we feel happy, unhappy, tired, annoyed, and so on…

I still want to feel fine and be the best I can be for the ones I love,
And I know I am going to reach what I have planned!
But I am not carrying the weight of the expectations with me.
I will let the appointments take their course and take one step at a time instead.

Blessings.