Tips to Deal with Anxiety

Good evening dearest…

I usually write during the night or during the afternoon.
Then I either post at the moment or allow Blogger to do its magic.
There is this subject…that I felt unconfortable in the past to talk about.

It is night over here and I chose to write out what I was thinking about
It is a quite personal post.

Anxiety.
Again… Anxiety.

Okay, better this way, with smaller font.
I considered anxiety to be something that held me back for some years.
As a matter of fact, it gave me quite some headaches.

I must admit, I still haven’t fully tamed this
But I am starting to find ways to cope and deal with it.

NOTE : Anxiety does not have to be a monster!
In a normal situation, it is acceptable or «normal» to feel nervous and worried

(To feel alarmed/nervous/insecure is a mechanism of the human being
To be aware of risks, to be grounded and focused to his/her surroundings)

BUT when it affects and disturbs your life, whether socially or psychologically
It is time to react and seek help!

POV :
When I am anxious I tend to think too much and barely function.
With these wrongs… :

«What if…?» , «I should have done/said (usually added with «more») » , 
«I could have done» , «What will happen?»
«It was my fault» , «I was not good enough» , 
«I am not ready for this…» , «I cannot do» …and so on…

Over and over again…

Are few examples I can give out to you.
I found and sorted out some ways to deal with it
And other ways/tips to ease my mind.

When I get TOO anxious, my stomach aches
and I honestly feel like I want to cry.
Other times, eating and sleeping gets affected.
We don’t have to live like this!

So I rushed to seek help and advice…
Oh and found out some ways to deal with this on my own.

What I do…not in any particular order

1. Think about good moments.
Anyone who you deeply love or inspires you greatly.
Someone you held dearly to your heart.

2. Have a lucky charm.
I once went to a store and a black stone caught my attention.
Onix. So I bought it and ever since, I carry it along with me.
In my pocket and near me when I am going to sleep.

3. Light up a candle once in a while.
Stare at the flame, keep an eye on it.
Just sitting and connecting with your «self»
Or even, thanking for the day.

4. I have…conquered . I have…achieved .
I confess I am still slowly adapting to this way of thought
Due to the fact that I had these negative thoughts
And reversed thinking pattern for so many years
That it is hard (NOT IMPOSSIBLE) to change.
It will take time, but I believe! I am trying this !

So the tip on point number 4 is to,
At the end of the day to say or think to yourself :

TODAY , I have conquered… (fill in) . 

TODAY , I have achieved… (fill in).

It does not matter if it was a silly or small achievement.
What matters is that your mind gain focus on that type of thoughts
So that it may feel at peace whether it is at night, before going to bed
Or whenever you need so.

An example : 

TODAY , 
I have conquered my goal of making through the day and learning properly.

TODAY , 
I have achieved what I had planned : to write for this blog.

5. RESCUE Thought.
When I am really, really anxious and I have the chance
I usually go to my bed and just stay there.
And try to breathe. Slowly…

Then , (can be a solution in other cases and combined to 5) 
I think to myself over and over and over again
As many times as needed , this :

« IT IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT »
« IT IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT »
« IT IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT »
« IT IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT »
« IT IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT »

NOTE : 
Thoughts are very powerful and can have a strong influence in us.
We have to reverse them, in case they are harmful.

6. Balance and Organize.
I know that something either unknown
Or unexpected is more likely to cause anxiety.
Now and then you can learn to organize your thoughts
Or your projects. That will help you deal with insecurities.

You can organize at a) mind or b) by writing out.
It can be used once in a while as a guideline or resource.

If you know what you have to do or what you will say
(for presentations) you will feel slightly less nervous
By practicing too (you can try in front of a mirror, for instance)
Presentations will become something simple.
Achievement? Your confidence will boost!

7. Write out or Talk out
I used to write my heart out or talk out with someone when I felt anxious.
It helped too… However, now
I am trying by myself to find ways (mentioned above) to cope.

8. Letting it all out
Lastly, if I do feel like I want to cry, I do cry.
If I get nervous to that point, I will…
It is better to become aware of this
Than to let those emotions burst and get out of control.

9. Reading
Reading can prove to be relaxing.
Choose your favorites
Or maybe you can choose to read a diferent type of book
One that you usually don’t read.
Or you can pick Self Improvement or Guidance books.

This was my POV and Tips for the moment.
I shall add new tips from time to time
Feel free to add any suggestions or even contact us, if you would like.

Wishing you all best.

Life´s Advice – Psychotherapy and Tools

Good evening, everyone !

I have been asked, even more than just once if I have knowledge
And/or if I am connected to Psychology.
I shall leave that for other people to evaluate.

But then, when time passes
The answer will be left at open.

I have learnt much while studying during my course
And mostly, thanks to life itself.
It can bring many,many lessons along,
IF we are willing to learn.

It is a long process
And I am going to be completly honest :
There will be times of joy, there will be sadness and frustration.
There will be tears, there will be times of exhaustion
And when you stop and look behind, you will realize
” I have achieved so much, I have changed ! “

It will be worth it and it is.
Psycotherapy was a really valuable tool and taught me many things
And still does. It is helpful because:

A) It boosts your self confidence.

B) Helps you with expressing your feelings towards someone else.
Note : Again, it will take take time .
Maybe you will feel and create empathy towards your psychologist at the first time,
Or later or even with someone else, later on.

C) Psychotherapy is where you can talk about what is troubling you
There, you can about just nothing, anything, everything.
However, if you feel like holding back, maybe you haven’t created that bond
That empathy with the professional yet. It will require time, trust me.
Amongst four professionals I created a strong therapeutical bond with the first and last one.
When that happens you will feel like nothing is too difficult to tell.

It might be difficult to start if you think that that person is a stranger.
Think of it like this ” I AM HERE ONLY TO GET BETTER “
And this one person IS going to HELP 
A special and unique human being : ME (YOU) “

D) Helps your thoughts…
Often, whilst a person is depressed or stressed
He or she may have difficulty in organizing his/her thoughts
And its organization.

Therapy CAN and will help you stablish goals
Then priorities, then time to do so.
As in a “TO DO LIST”

QUESTIONS : 
What do I / Aim for and wish ? 
When can I do ? When will it be?

Note : 
What – Objectives.
When – Stablishes time to accomplish and/or complete those tasks.
(When…) Will it be? – an expression which is clearly set for the future.

Another step :
First we can start off by writing down our personal goals
The ones that come to head and mind at the very start
Then others, and so on…
Afterwards you shall divide everything in two lists

Personal Goals and Professional Goals
And, yet opcional, you can also create another blank paper sheet
By the name of Dreams and Aspirations.
We all deserve so and should dream.
May those be a flame and a MOTIVATION
for you to always, always keep you head high
and have a constant motivation.

My motivation is connected to what I have achieved
Along with waking up alive every morning
Having health and keeping in mind that my work
And/or course will take me somewhere, will be useful
Or even, that I shall gain anything with them.

So, after reading this , what is your motivation?

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God bless*

Job – What to do on the First day

I have some experience on the matter
So I will do my best on writting to you about it :

A) What to wear :
Avoid anything that is too tight to your body
OR that looks sloppy. Tracking suits are a no.
If you are a girl, don’t use a miny skirts
or clothes that are too revealing.
If you are to wear a skirt, wear one that goes around
or below the knee area.
You can also wear a blazer to match the skirt.

If you are a boy, you can wear a suit
Avoid sloppy clothes as well
Shave the beard or trim it.

B) Organize :
Take documents that you need
Such as your resume and certificates.
You can take a folder, briefcase
or portfolio with all that you need.

C) Time :
Make sure you either arrive earlier
Or right on time. It is a plus.
If not, the impression will be maybe a bit damaged.

D) Colleagues :
Knowing your co-workers takes time
maybe quite some time.
You are not forced to get along with all your colleagues

Job – My very first day at work

Good morning, everyone! I hope you are going great;
For today I have decided to share with you a rather old
And funny experience at the very beginning.

Sometimes the VERY first day isn’t easy
Specially when someone gets nervous OR has quite some expectations;
Like me, for an example.

Eventually (and with time) I have learned to
Relax more and not to get overwhelmed
With all the stress.

No drama needed :
If you make through it, GREAT !
If not, off we go to find better chances
AND opportunities are out there for you*
I know it!!

My very first day was a MESS.
First of all, I have met the boss
and I was to work as a recepcionist at a rent a car stand.

NEXT DAY :
Official day at work – Day one
I got dressed and put a pair of boots with a heel.
My self confidence was up and I was ready to go to work.
I arrived to the stand (which was sort of a garage)
And there was a ramp…so I had to walk all the way down to the reception.
My boss was staring at me and waiting.

I started to go through the ramp
BUT I wasn’t expecting for the ramp to be slippery
And I FELL…fell a bit more…and ended right in front of him.
My leg was twisted and landed on my bottom.

My boss asked if I was alright:
I got up instantly, smiled and said “I’m fine”
A clumsy start, indeed… but I stayed!

Job – How to create a survey

I am going to give you some tips that I learned
While I was in schoool on how to create a survey ;
I eventually , and also, learned more
While working as someone who does opinion surveys
To people on the phone.

A) It is preferable to start off with questions
that bring interest to the other person and
that do not scare or intimidate him/her
on the other side of the line.

B) Avoid personal questions
or tematics that offer more resistance of answer
Such as polithics, money or sexuality.

C) Place each question in the same subject
To avoid confusion and wastes of time.

D) Variety in the way you create/say/start
Each question is needed.

Types of Questions

– Closed
(Yes OR No)

– Open
(Why? – They often require an opinion
or a more developted answer)

– Semi-Open
(Contain Yes AND Why)

Avoid…

E) Introducing two questions in one;

F) Asking “Why” very oftenly ;

G) Formulating questions in the negative form.

Job – Warning Signs

The sun shines over here and it isn’t late so…
Good morning everyone 🙂

In this post I am going to speak about a very important subject
Because I do not want anyone to fall into any trap
Like I once did. Why?
Because I don’t want you to go through it. ❤

There are several signs that CAN help you a LOT
They appear simple but regardless of that I want you to know.
I know I have said some on another post about interviews and steps.

BASICS FOR YOU :
1) Beware while posting free ads on the Internet
Select only the most important information
AND be as clear as possible
about the job that you are searching for. 

2) Be careful about the information you give out.

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BASICS ABOUT COMPANIES
A) Try to know more about the company, for instance,
If it is reliable by asking about it to someone
or checking about it online.

B) As I said on the other post , check the email of the person
Who sends you the job offer on Google OR other search engine
That can save you and spare you from the lies or problems.

C) Or even the name of the employer if you are suspecting even more.
That can make you see the activity on the Internet.

D) Check the way the employer wrote to you.
Too many typos, it is a warning!

E) Adress…
The person who calls you for an interview
MUST know where you have to go for the interview
Without hesitations NOR mistakes.

F) Being Polite.
If you are to have any collegues, check the way they are treated on that day.
And if they aren’t, please reconsider for a while.

EXPLANATIONS…
A) A unknown company is a bit dangerous at times
And…by checking online you can see feedbacks whether they are positive
Or negative such as frauds for example.

B) By checking you can see the usual offers from that person
There can be lies, you will never know.
For example one person has sent me an offer for a Secretary
And when I searched there was something for an Acompany Lady.
So when you confirm your suspicions DO NOT answer.       

C) I tell you about this because the person can be one that only wants to meet girls/boys, ect
And not one to actually offer you the job he/she “promissed”.

D) A Employer can write well and has had some years in School, College or University
It is a Basic on Education. Please suspect if such happens.

E) It has no excuse.

F) This point helps you to reflect if the offer or company is the best for you.

Have a nice day ❤ !

Job – Respect

Greetings,

I must say my “Current Job” post has some time already
So I am going to talk about my current job…
I basically call people and ask them to do surveys
Opinion surveys. It is like a Callcenter.

And we do such and maybe interviews personally too
But now I’m only doing on the phone
The payment isn’t much either but it is something at least

We have several projects to go do surveys
and contact people from diferent parts of the country
for them to answer.

Basically it isn’t sales BUT people think they are…
Another thing that occurs is that most people do NOT respect
Others that are working!

So my question would be :
Do I look like I like working every weekend
And even having to work today (Monday)
Which is an Holiday over here??

Well, NO. But it is my job…
But mostly what bothers me is that people laugh at me
OR make stupid excuses like
“No one is at home, you’re talking with the cleaning lady”
“No one is at home (but someone answered the phone?)

OR say something such as…
Q : When would be the proper time to contact again?
A : I don’t know, just keep trying! (Right…)

OR :
Q : Could I count with your colaboration in this study?
A : NO! (laughs)

OR :
(I finished talking)
Q (other person there) : Who is that?
A (from the person on the phone) : Just some girl. And hung up.

OR EVEN :
Some just hung up the phone without giving me the chance to talk
Or just hung up while I’m talking.

…I’m not forcing people to answer
But at least I would like some colaboration from them.
I was 4 hours with ONE survey done….
And that survey was incomplete in the middle.
I had to fill out the rest.

Now you shall know how frustrating that is a bit.
Then to brighten up my day there are like one or two persons on the phone
(No more than one or two) who talk a lot, that are really polite
Who answer the survey gladly. And for those I do like my work!

Why did I make this post?
As a “wake up” message. We all have to work for a living.
Whether is sales, surveys, do cleaning or being a waitress , ect…
Please respect the ones who work because they have to, to earn money
I guess it is pretty much it and I was venting too.

Note : Despite of any hatred or bad answer
Love your job as the only one you have
and as you are a lucky person to even have one.

At last but definately not least…
I shall leave this quote for you ❤

Nobody can hurt me
without my permission.

Mahatma Gandhi

Blessed be!